I'm doing better today. Not great, but better. Part of that comes from having a good therapist, part coming from the stupid week being over. Yesterday I worked with my therapist how to communicate something with B. I came home and used it. It worked wonderfully. Basically they have been spending a lot of time with their new friend and I wanted to make sure I wasn't exhibiting any behavior (something in my control I can work on) that was causing them to want to not spend time with me. Their paraphrased response:
Okay. I can handle that. It all comes down to how you shouldn't tell an autistic person to just do something. Brain doesn't get it. Too many why questions. But if you say "do this because this will happen if you don't" then it gets understood. Basically what I needed to hear from B.
I did chuckle a bit last night though. They experienced something with their new friend that I had issue with last weekend. The new friend is a stoner through and through. Hell, they work at a pot shop packaging all day. 8 hours a day, 5 days a week of mind numbing tedious work just packing up pot. I would literally kill myself after one day of that, but their happy. My issue is they are on stoner time. And stoner plan making. "Yeah let's go at 9" turns into 10:30 and a different set of plans. That happened to B last night. They were supposed to meet at 9 somewhere and they didn't arrive at their destination until 11:30. Yeah. Nope.
Today by contrast, I am heading back to the Farmer's Market. At 6:30am. With someone who confirmed our meeting place and time at 7pm last night. That's how I roll. THAT works much better for me. So hopefully this time I will have a better experience. Wish me luck.