B and I had a pretty serious argument last night which is a shame because I had a really good group in my class. It's like I can have one but not the other. My class was great - they showed up on time, they knew what they were doing, they understood how to mute themselves. It helped that 2 of the 4 had been to one of my classes before, but still, I like it when I have an intelligent class. After class I got a call from a coworker who wanted to discuss some stuff. That was an interesting call. The company is moving her from doing consulting only to helping us fill some training gaps and they want to adjust her comp plan to be a flex plan instead of hourly as a result. She wanted to know if I thought there would be enough training dates to make it worthwhile. It's the same shit they tried to pull with me and I told her so.
While I was talking with her B came home. She was in a good mood when she got home and everything was fine. Then she made the mistake of sending her boss an email about their paychecks. They use some local accountant to handle their payroll and the guy has no respect for what time he shows up. B asked her boss if since payday was saturday that their guy could show up a little earlier than his normal 4:55. Her boss responded with a very cold, yet professional, response of how he is honoring his commitments as he has until the close of business to deliver checks and that B should feel lucky as some companies wouldn't even pay on a weekend and make her wait until Monday. All true comments, but her boss doesn't really know how to be casual or even polite sometimes. She is a cold person when it comes to her emails and the problem is B takes it personally. She got upset with her bosses response and started in on the whole 'I want to quit my job' thing. I had enough. I told her she needs to stop taking these things personally and to get over it. Also if she wants to quit she has to wait until we move because I can't take the stress of her not working right now. That led into a big blowout about her being a burden blah blah blah. It just soured the night. Long story short, while B knows I am right, she was upset because I couldn't empathize with her. Sorry, I just can't. Part of the argument was me telling her she lets too many stupid irrelevant things bug her. Just go to work, do your job, and go home. This of course made me the bad guy because I just 'didn't understand anything'. Nope, I don't. Not in this case.
She ended up taking a bath while I went in the other room. In the end she tried apologizing to me and I told her there was nothing said that required apologies from either of us. Which is true. We did argue efficiently at least. While she got a little emotional neither of us said anything spiteful or mean. We really didn't even raise our voices. The downside is I was upset and ended up not eating dinner. I gave her some space and came to bed around 10.
In the end it was all resolved, but I stand by my feelings. Hopefully she as a result of this will be able to take a step back from everything and see that she does take some things personal that she just shouldn't. On my part, I will try to empathize better with her situation. I was also serious about her quitting AFTER we move. Because what we're going to save a month in rent will allow her to not have to work for a while. She just has to hold on until then.
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