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And the drama police were in full effect yesterday...

I mentioned yesterday that I received texts between 11 and 11:30 from my director last night. Turns out I wasn't the only one. I sent them an email in the morning saying I was sorry for missing their texts and to feel free to call any time. I carboned our cast advisor because I had a feeling there was going to be drama and I wanted someone else to know my side of the world. She replied back to me and told me that she too had texts in the middle of the night. Hers were at 11:45 and essentially said 'my hubby almost hit your hubby multiple times last night. just thought you should know. also I can't hang out with you any more, miss you lots'. Um, I'm sorry, are we 12?? She was furious. But unfortunately the fun didn't stop there...

I got a phone call from the male half of my directors I would say around 10ish. This is gonna be long but bear with me as I am out the point now where I am seeing red and about to quit because of all this.. the first thing he asks me is who gave one of the girls (under 21) wine. I said I would assume this other guy as they were together. He then went on about how he saw TGF with a glass of wine and the other girl too and how this is an issue for him because while it wasn't a cast function he has a thing against underage drinking mostly due to his job. My response to all that was yeah, it wasn't a cast function, it was a wedding. AND the way I grew up was at weddings there were bottles of wine at the table and no one cared who drank what. But I also expressed that I understood where he was coming from and it was not a problem for me to make sure that it is away from him as to avoid any association. If my girlfriend is having a drink at a non-cast function then it will be as far away from him as possible. That was my way of disagreeing with him on this issue while still respecting where he is coming from. He seemed okay with that but did mention he was going to talk to our cast advisor about drinking and non-cast/cast functions in general. Whatever. This is just total bullshit. You can't police things that aren't yours to police. This was a WEDDING. When I shared this with our advisor her response was 'well he should have gone table to table checking IDs then'. 

It's the next part that was more interesting. He said that him and his wife have been noticing lately that there seems to be a split in cast. That tech is hanging with tech, security with security, etc and this was something that they have tried to avoid since taking over cast. My response was that I didn't see that because I am against exclusion and always invite people across the board if I am having a function. Which is true - my last party had tech, security, actors, non-cast people, etc. I don't exclude. I dislike people being in clicks and go out of my way to avoid it. I conveyed all this to him and then asked for specifics. He hemmed and hawed and finally came out with "we have seen that there is 'our' group and 'your' group". Okay. Well... I clearly told him it wasn't intentional. I am in no way trying to segregate or exclude people.

I then told him that since we were talking, I needed to get something off my chest. In the seven months TGF and I have been going out, she has missed zero shows. In that time his wife has said hello to her exactly ZERO times. While I don't expect her to be over friendly, would saying hello kill her? Especially given that she has been by my side for every show and supporting us as a cast? TGF brings friends to shows when she can. She always buys a ticket. She helps me with props. Yet, his wife can't even say hello? He didn't really have a reply for that because I think deep down he knows I was right for defending my girlfriend. That pretty much was the end of the phone call. Ten minutes later I get this email from his wife:

XXXXX told me about what you 2 talked about.  Theres something you need to understand.  Its not just that we don't approve of the massive age gap between you and your girlfriend, we're also tired of cast members telling us that they are uncomfortable being around you 2.  I'm tired of hearing it come from people who look to [us] to deal with it.  So, fixing the problem?

Um, who the hell is saying they are uncomfortable being around us? And if you are uncomfortable DON'T BE AROUND US. It's not like we are flaunting our relationship. No, just the opposite. We stay to ourselves so as NOT to piss anyone off. You wonder why you see a split in the groups? Well maybe because we are associating with people who ARE comfortable with us?? And what does she think I am going to do? Break up with my girlfriend for her benefit?? Fuck that. I would rather quit cast. Personally I have not had anyone speak to ME or TGF about being uncomfortable around us. If anyone has a problem with us then they should either stay away from us or tell me to my face. Also TGF is pissed because she sees our director EMBRACE someone who 15-16 years younger than their boyfriend AND lets her on cast on my department no less without even any discussion. But did I complain? No. I just kept my mouth shut. She had no problem when too other people with a large difference were going out. Fuck she is STILL friendly to her when comes to shows and she is on a cast she HATES. Then there is the couple who are married and 25 years apart. While not around recently they also have a "massive age gap" to use her words. In the end, I really want to know who is "uncomfortable" being around us. Because have some balls and tell ME. Don't go behind my back. TGF is pissed right now and so am I. 

I didn't reply because I didn't really know what to say without blowing my top. I really feel like I am being told to breakup with TGF or quit cast and I think you  know which one I will do...

I shared all of that with our advisor and she too has had it. She was through the roof on this. We both agree that there is no fucking way you can police people's lives. I am going to the show this saturday as I am committed already but then I am taking a break. I am checking out of the next show which will give me a month without seeing them. I need that. I need to get away from their fucking drama for a while. 

Other than that, the day was okay. I am waiting for my next assignment which looks like it will be the Department of Labor. Yes, THE department of labor in DC. We are being hired to develop a set of dashboards for the Secretary of Labor. Not too shabby, eh? But I won't know on that for a few days. We have a knowledge transfer meeting today in 3 hours. 

Watched some Buffy/Angel with the kid, talked to TGF who by 10 had finally cooled down, and went to bed.

Let's see what kind of fun today brings...