My therapist is the best. I am so very grateful to have found her. She really gives me the right way to say things without starting a fight or cause trouble. I like that. Case in point, I was expressing yesterday my frustration at B's lack of progress with their office. Because until their office moves down here, both of us are split between two worlds. That also means they are spending way too much time upstairs talking on the damn phone with cgf. I needed the words to express why this is hurtful and how it makes me feel stuck that they haven't moved forward. My therapist helped me formulate the right words and last night after class before we both went out, B and I had a productive talk. As of right now, the large furniture is out of that office and now they can work on boxing up some of the smaller things. I expect this week to see some excellent progress. This is super important because once my office is moved upstairs, B can have this whole downstairs to themselves, I can have the upstairs and separate lives can begin. The goal is to be done with this by the end of the month. I think we can do it. We both are going to be spending time with others the weekend of October 6th. CGF is in town and B plans on staying with them at an Airbnb. I booked a hotel out of town and I plan to stay with, shit I need a name for her, um, how about NG for new girl? Yeah, let's go with that. NG and I are planning a weekend in Holland. I am going to drive there Friday afternoon, they will meet me, if all goes well, we spend the night together, putz around Holland all day saturday, then they go home, and I will go home Sunday morning. B is planning to be with CGF Thursday night through Monday night. This will be good for both of us. But so much of it hinges on us already being out of the same bed. We're so close. We also discussed how and why them talking on the phone hours a day is hurtful for me. They understood and said they would do better at making their conversations more private. This is all I can ask for right now.
While B and I are making progress, they are losing ground with old friends. Two of whom are flat out now *my* friends. No one asked anyone to 'choose sides' in all this, but it's happened naturally. They are not there for these people who have been with them for 15+ years. One I talked to on the phone last night who conveyed they're tired of this shit, the other I had dinner with last night and heard the same thing. I have been there more for them in the last few months than B and they are both tired of it. While I feel for B, I am happy to know I have friends available to me as I need them moving forward. Makes all of this easier for me to handle. When I start feeling dark two or three months from now, I know I will have local people to turn to for help. I know I have many of you always available to me, but you're not here. You're thousands of miles away and sometimes I need someone at 2am to just give me a hug. I will, no I DO, have that this time around. Gee, maybe this is why I haven't had to take a buspar in weeks or why my tinnitus hasn't flared up in days. Gosh.
In other news, I had a good talk with a client/friend yesterday. Some of my clients over the years have definitely turned into friends. This one in particular is in PA and we had a nice chat yesterday. I told him everything that's been going on this summer with me, he in turn shared his upcoming divorce, his new girlfriend, how his side business is going, etc. Truly was two friends talking. He is going to be in Detroit soon for work and we will get together for drinks. I am looking forward to that. Nice to have a friend near enough that I can visit if I want to get out of town for any reason.
Taught my last formal day with group 1 from the Humane Society. Next week is an informal day with them, then four days with group 2. Oh yeah, two full weeks of teaching them. Then I teach Boeing for a week. Then Wright College. Then someone else. Welcome to the busy season.
Today is lash day!! Very excited for this. Then going out to the club with friends. Tomorrow I plan on doing nothing, but today is going to be fun!
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