ANA Y1 D50

Fifty days. 7 weeks. For the average person, not much happens in 7 weeks. But, I've never been average, now have I?

I have big news. Like really big news. I no longer have to wait until September to see how things are going to change. B and CGF officially broke up last night. This time for good. Yesterday during the day I learned that Thursday was not a good time for them. Such a not good time that at one point B made an offhand comment that caused CGF to cry. B shared all this with me yesterday for the record. It seems that CGF has not engaged in this kind of "relationship" before. While they too have been enjoying the sex part of it, they weren't mentally prepared for the emotional part of it. Having a friend with benefits has forced them to confront the things missing in their life. Ironically I had a backhand influence on this. CGF and I are connected on social media, Insta to be exact. It has been mentally occurring to them that they are nothing more than a living vibrator as I described previously. While B gets to go home to pets and a spouse and an actual home, CGF is left alone each time one of these trysts happens. B gets to go back to a warm fluffy bed with all the niceties of home life, while CGF sleeps in a twin bunk bed as a guest in someone else's trailer. That's been hitting them hard. As a result, whatever comment B made Thursday really stung. This is also why B came home later than expected Thursday night. Last night we're sitting around watching TV together and B says CGF wants to talk. They knew what was coming. They felt the vibe being off all day between them. After some discussion, B goes around 9:30 to meet them at a Red Robin halfway between the two of them. My suggestion obviously because, well, I didn't want them to be engaged all night in breakup sex. B also didn't want to be some place where it could get overly emotional and agreed it was good to do it in public. They ended up being gone for 2 hours, but when they got home at midnight, I was informed it is over. CGF needs more and wants to focus on their life. They need to work on having a healthy relationship that can go somewhere. That's all I got out of B. Fair. Since this is the third time they've "ended" things, B was not a major mess. Slight mess, but way better than before. Mostly because this time it was on their own terms and not being forced by someone else. 

What does all this mean for us? To be honest, I don't know. We're still planning on going out tonight, we're still planning to do things this weekend. Will it mean more physical contact for us? I don't know. I feel it will mean the playing field is a little more level. Now B has to "date" and see how things have been for me struggling with all this. Plus, MCGF and I are moving forward. We're still having dinner Wednesday. We have an agreed like for each other. If we can figure things out, it will be me out until midnight. B gets to sit at home alone and see how it feels. I do take some pleasure in this. Being honest. Whether they see it or not, they've had things easy. An immediate girlfriend, a place to have sex, a spouse who has been trying to work with them. They're going to have to put some effort in now. Let's see how that changes things.

In other news, I am going to finally take a shower this morning. We have a new water heater. I will put a pic at the end of all this. The crew was here from 9 until 4. It was an all day job. But I get 125 degree water in 15 seconds that never stops being hot. Boo-yah. Extremely happy about this. Still need to put everything away in the basement, but that sounds like a Sunday project. Today I have a hair appointment followed by the clothing swap at my group place. I will be gone the majority of the day. B wanted me to have a life, well here you go. Now tonight we're going to the bar I went before. My friend is going with us too. We will see how it goes. 

I had therapy yesterday which was fun catching up on two weeks of stuff. I also messaged my therapist last night telling them what's going on. This way they will be prepared when I come in Friday. Already looking forward to it. Heh.

Without further ado, our new water heater: